Ways “Grudge-Dumping” Poisons Your Relationships

1. Ghosting: Ghosting is one of the most common responses when things go wrong. If a relationship becomes frustrating or anxiety-producing, the ghoster will flee without explanation. Ghosters claim they didn’t want to hurt the person. Ultimately, the ghoster is only protecting themselves—not the person they ghosted.

2. Blame-Shifting: Blame-shifters find a reason to end a relationship without a confrontation. They may blame society, their family, or their childhood. They may even blame themselves (“It’s not you, it’s me”). Their goal is to let a person down gently; ultimately, blame-shifting is most often permission to be cruel without consequence.

3. Grudge-Collecting: On the surface, grudge-collectors appear to be people-pleasers; quick to smile, always willing to accommodate, and the last to provoke a confrontation. But beware, behind their tense grin is a loaded gun; each bullet, a stored away grudge, aimed directly at you.