Reasons Social Media Makes Us Hate Ourselves

  • It is a contest between us and everyone, sparking our urge to view all fellow humans as competitors and every word/act/interchange as an audition or race that we might lose.
  • The lives of others seem so sexy, fun and lush compared to ours as we naively observe manufactured lives, mistaking them for true.
  • We’re being watched and judged. Humans have always (sensibly) feared being monitored and scanned. But social media exhorts us to expose ourselves and love being surveilled.
  • On virtual stages, we pose. Performativity turns every word we type and every picture we post into a recital, everyplace we are into a stage and thus every reality less real.
  • We feel so ugly when comparing our unfiltered looks to those of users whom we don’t realize use filters