How to Propose in the Most Memorable Way Possible
Make it about the story. “There are few life moments that we actually slow down enough to plan with care, detail, and forethought,” says Connor Beaton, founder of the podcast ManTalks – and a proposal should be one of them. He suggests writing the story you want to tell after it’s done, then working back from there. Don’t write a proposal story you think will impress other people; write one that’s totally about you and your partner.
Know what your partner wants. “Know your audience,” Beaton says. If your partner hates surprises, make it clear that a formal proposal is on its way-invite them along to go ring shopping, or anything else that keeps them in the loop. Are they close with their family and would appreciate if they were there? Then invite them. “This could mean that you do some reconnaissance by asking how she thinks you would propose if it ever happened, or ask one of her close friends what she thinks you have planned.”
Pay attention to details. Beaton’s heard hundreds of couples tell him their story, and the main thing that always seems to matter most to both people are the small things that others wouldn’t get. “The music playing in the background from the local musician she can’t get enough of, to the people involved, to the moments before and after-these things enhance the story,” he says.
DON’T be cheesy. Beaton believes there’s “a very specific brand of person who truly loves cheesy moments, and unless you’re 100% sure that your partner is that person, leave the cheese off the menu.” The problem is that many people have no clue what their partner would find cheesy when it comes to a proposal, Beaton says. That’s why he again recommends consulting a close friend or trusted family member to guide you in the right direction.