You would think dating has gotten easier with all these apps. After all, online dating connects you with more single people than ever before. Yet somehow, dating in 2020 feels like an ongoing nightmare. It’s just swipe after swipe. First date after first date. Your crushes have no desire to be in a relationship with you. Your casual flings confess that they love you. You have a laundry list of qualifications for your ideal partner, and you can’t seem to find someone who meets even half of them.
That last point could be a big part of the problem with online dating. You may think you know what you want, but in actuality, you have no idea. We learned this from Netflix’s reality dating show, Love Is Blind, where couples dated and got engaged in “pods,” without ever seeing each other.
It’s not just the Love Is Blind cast: Blind dating seems to be reemerging as a legitimate way to meet people, as singles grow exhausted from the constant disappointment of apps like Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble. (BTW, When we say blind dating, we mean a date set up by a person you know, as opposed to an algorithm on an app.)
In this era of dating fatigue, excitement and potential are exactly what we need. Since we’re not getting that from online dating, perhaps it’s worth it to trust our friends and let them set it up. They may know what we need in a partner even better than we do.