To Be A Great Leader Stop Trying To Be ‘Authentic’

These days there’s a very popular piece of advice many of us hear over and over again, “Just be yourself.” That’s great, but maybe you shouldn’t “live your truth” out loudly at all times, at least around the office. Adam Grant of the New York Times writes, “No one wants to see your true self. We all have thoughts and feelings that we believe are fundamental to our lives, but that are better left unspoken.” And science agrees. People who are high self-monitors (or pay attention to those around them, and adjust their behavior accordingly) tend to advance their careers more rapidly and achieve higher status among their peers compared to low self-monitors (who are more focused on themselves rather than what goes on around them.) The thing is that high self-monitors are much more aware of what the people around them need, and how those individuals are reacting to them in the social sense. Science says people with this trait tend to make good leaders because they are more likely to learn from and embrace the traits and habits of those around them, which over time makes them more effective leaders.