People took to a Reddit thread this week to share some of the things they’ve experienced on first dates which immediately turned them off that prospective partner.
“Being constantly on their phone” was one person’s deal-breaker, which seems fair enough; you have the rest of your lives to ignore each other, but the first date is for actually getting to know the person sitting across from you.
Being rude to the server is also high up on the list; it’s seen as a red flag and a clue as to what kind of person your date really is.
Similarly, one-sided conversations and self-involvement are other common turn-offs, with a number of commenters expressing frustration at dates who talk about themselves without ever actually asking a question.
Playing “hard to get” is an instant deal-breaker for a lot of guys, especially when it comes from an outdated, gendered point of view. “Whatever guy told girls that we like them playing ‘hard to get’ needs to be taken behind a tool shed,” one commenter wrote.
Other gendered expectations have proven to be less conducive to romance than they might have been in the past; a lot of men don’t like it when a woman expects him to pay, while a few female commenters said it’s the guys who get s****y when they want to pay for themselves.
On a related note, expecting or demanding sex at the end of the night, regardless of how well or not the date has gone, isn’t a good look on anyone. These aren’t transactions, people!