Is It OK to Flirt with Other People When You’re in a Relationship?

A Relationship Coach weighs in…

1.It’s OK to Be Friendly Sometimes. There is a difference between flirting and being charming. Being charming is an elegant way of being kind, polite, sexy, and not being overall sexually suggestive or flirty, while still exercising those flirt muscles. Sometimes, those lines blur without realizing it. Signs of genuine platonic affection, giggling, embracing or speaking at a close distance can often be misconstrued as flirting.

 2. Examine Your Intent. If you’re flirting with someone because you’re hoping it will turn into more, you shouldn’t be doing it.

 3. Don’t Do It with People Who Know Your Partner. If you’re going to flirt with other people, at least don’t take the risk that it will get back to your partner.

 4. Draw Clear Boundaries. Keep it light and avoid anything sexually suggestive and avoid going further. A little blink or smile or a flirty comment is OK, but a sexually suggestive flirt that might make the other person think there could be something more isn’t OK, with or without the partner around.

 5. Honesty Is the Best Policy. While a bit of light flirting will probably not destroy your relationship, you’ll feel better if you discuss your desires with your partner and flirt with their blessing. You can also discuss whether or not you want to tell each other if you’ve flirted with other people.