Honesty Isn’t Always The Best Policy

We’re taught that lying is a really bad thing to do, but researchers are saying there’s a lot we get wrong about deception. Maurice Schweitzer, a professor at the University of Pennsylvania says, “I believe we should be teaching our kids, students, and employees when and how to lie.” Experts say there are five scenarios where fibbing might be the best course of action: 1) If you have someone’s best interests at heart (also called “prosocial lies”) these lies have been found to build trust between people; 2) There’s no time to change (basically if the person you’re lying to doesn’t have time to act on information you might give them.); 3) If you’re giving constructive criticism (deliver it in a more gentle manner, as it will likely get you a better outcome in a the long run.) 4) Right before a special occasion (don’t give someone honest information at a time when it will distract them from something important.) 5) If you’re not close with the person (an expert says, “In more competitive relationships or first interactions, honesty is a lot more precarious, can damage relationships and reduce trust.”)