1. Having daily schedule talks in bed. Obviously, couples need to discuss the logistics of the day (someone has to plan dinner for tomorrow) but not in the bedroom. There’s something about this type of discussion that can zap the intimacy out of a room.
2. Taking your phone to bed. Nearly three-quarters of Americans who live with their spouse or partner take their smartphone to bed with them, according to a recent survey. Of those polled, 35 percent said their sex life had taken a hit because of bedtime phone use. Unless you’re reaching for your phone to play some Sade before getting busy, keep the phone away from your bed.
3. Letting the kids or the dog crawl into bed with you. If you have little kids, it’s inevitable that they’ll spend some nights in your bed. Let them, but try not make it a habit. This can easily become a source of resentment, conflict and disconnect between partners. The same rule follows for Fido too, as cute as he may be.
4. Allowing the bedroom to get cluttered. You know that pile of laundry, dirty socks and handbags that has taken on a life of its own in the corner of your bedroom? You’d be a lot more likely to get lucky if you put it all away.
5. Working in the bedroom. You want to associate your bedroom with peace and romance, not stress from doing work. Do yourself and your partner a favor and keep the bedroom a no-work zone.
6. Watching or reading the news. It’s natural to want to lie in bed and catch up on the stories of the day. The problem is, you should be turning your attention to your quiet time and your partner. The day’s news can be upsetting and trigger your stress response.