1. They’re not sure they made the right decision. If our role models were parents who fought constantly or left at the sign of conflict, we’re likely to do the same in our own relationships as adults. For many men who grew up thinking this way, it often feels easier to just leave. But when the dust settles and he starts missing you, he questions whether he made the right decision.
2. There’s no one else they’re interested in. Some men fear the loss of freedom when it comes to coupling, and they may take off when things get a little too intimate. Then, once he has all the freedom to date whomever he chooses again, he may find that the other options just don’t compare to you.
3. They’re testing your limits. He may not be doing this on purpose, but if your ex is breaking up with you and coming back, it’s likely he’s testing your boundaries to see what kind of behavior you’ll tolerate. The guy isn’t completely to blame in this scenario. You teach people how you want to be treated.
4. They feel guilty and want to be reassured. Most people don’t mean to break your heart. That’s why they often feel guilty and try to be your friend or to stay in touch. They don’t necessarily realize that doing this is actually worse, because it means they’re inadvertently leaving you hoping you might get back together.
5. They regret breaking up with you. Everyone makes mistakes. A guy who breaks your heart but comes back may be regretting his decision to end things. In fact, one study found that 43% of men regret breaking up with their partner. It could be that the guy made a simple error in judgment. It happens.