Tips for Dating after a Divorce

-FIGURE OUT IF YOU’RE READY.

It’s usually clear when you’re not ready. But once the idea of going on a date comes into your mind and you don’t want to chase it out again, you’re at least ready to start. 

 

-FEEL THE FEAR — AND DO IT ANYWAY.

Just remember that your fears are normal – after all, you’re dealing with or have dealt with a major betrayal and upheaval – and that you don’t have to jump all the way in.

 

-AVOID NEGATIVE THINKING.

While it’s not unheard of for a woman wounded by a painful divorce to make statements like “all men are jerks” or “all the good ones are taken,” that’s obviously not a good mindset to have going into dating.

 

-DETERMINE YOUR DATING INTENTION. 

Sit down and craft a statement of what, exactly, you’re after. Is it a partner in life? A short-term liaison that might lead to something? Just some fun for now? 

 

-GET ONLINE.

These days, there’s a site for everyone, from eHarmony and Match to niche sites like JDate.

 

-REMEMBER THAT DATING IS A NUMBERS GAME.

-Try to remember that if you’re meeting a lot of people, the number of bad apples will go up – but so will the odds that you’ll meet a few good apples too.