-FIGURE OUT IF YOU’RE READY.
It’s usually clear when you’re not ready. But once the idea of going on a date comes into your mind and you don’t want to chase it out again, you’re at least ready to start.
-FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY.
Just remember that your fears are normal – after all, you’re dealing with or have dealt with a major betrayal and upheaval – and that you don’t have to jump all the way in.
-AVOID NEGATIVE THINKING.
While it’s not unheard of for a woman wounded by a painful divorce to make statements like “all men are jerks” or “all the good ones are taken,” that’s obviously not a good mindset to have going into dating.
-DETERMINE YOUR DATING INTENTION.
Sit down and craft a statement of what, exactly, you’re after. Is it a partner in life? A short-term liaison that might lead to something? Just some fun for now?
These days, there’s a site for everyone, from eHarmony and Match to niche sites like JDate.
-REMEMBER THAT DATING IS A NUMBERS GAME.
-Try to remember that if you’re meeting a lot of people, the number of bad apples will go up – but so will the odds that you’ll meet a few good apples too.