This is probably one of the biggest excuses, and whether stress is work- or family-related, it really takes its toll on our sex lives.
Partners from the past
The more sexual partners a person has before marriage, the lower the quality of sex, communication and relationship stability is during a marriage. Apparently, this is because the more romances you’ve had, the easier it is for you to leave someone – so important relationship-orientated skills aren’t developed. Numerous partners can also lead to a “comparison effect.”
When it comes to your sex life, it’s best not to compare yours to anyone else’s. How frequently you have sex and what you enjoy are personal, and if you and your partner are happy and enjoying the ways you have sex, then that’s all that really matters.
Every couple experiences dry spells, and sometimes there can be a difference between how often each partner wants to make love. In a 2015 study, 128 married men and women were split into two groups and one of the groups was tasked with doubling how often they had sex. Interestingly, it was found that when sex was treated as an assignment, this led to a decline in their happiness.
It’s no secret that kids can prove a death knell for the amount of sex a couple enjoys. Interestingly, the touch from small kids who are seeking attention releases oxytocin. While this helps to bond both parents and child, it also suppresses dopamine and libido – bad news for your sex drive.