When it comes to breaking wind in front of a romantic partner, there are couples who think a toot here and there is no big deal. Some may even look at it as a positive thing; it just means two people are in love and totally at ease around each other.
And then there are couples who aren’t comfortable even talking about the idea of passing gas in front of each other. They find it repulsive, humiliating and perhaps consider it proof that romance is officially dead. We asked marriage experts to share their thoughts on this polarizing subject.
When It’s A Good Sign
Passing gas is nothing to be ashamed of. People in secure relationships are normal, living, breathing, occasionally farting human beings; if a toot slips out, they know it’s not going to change their partner’s feelings about them. “It’s a healthy sign that you are comfortable enough with each other to [pass gas],” said Gary Brown, a marriage and family therapist. The more we can normalize it and not shame it, the better.
When It’s A Bad Sign
Kurt Smith, a therapist who specializes in counseling men, said that while couples passing gas in front of each other can be sign of maturity in the relationship, it can also be a selfish or inconsiderate act in some cases. Let’s say your partner is constantly letting it rip and you tell him or her that it’s making you uncomfortable. If your partner doesn’t at least try to respect your wishes, that may be a bad sign. If your partner is not making an effort to control it, move away from you, or say “excuse me,” then it’s an example of disrespect