For most people in a monogamous relationship, having sex with or kissing someone who isn’t your partner definitely counts as cheating. But what about fantasizing about a friend or acquaintance? Or lying about how much money you spend?
In some people’s eyes, doing those things would make someone an unfaithful partner.
Emotional Infidelity: Emotional cheating isn’t about calling your partner out every time they confide in a friend. It’s about getting your emotional needs met by someone who isn’t your partner. People often develop close emotional bonds with coworkers or friends they see all the time, because they have shared experiences that a partner won’t understand. Many people in relationships are specifically guarding against sexual infidelity, so emotional infidelity catches them off guard.
Boundary Crossing: Breaking rules or boundaries set up by the partnership can count as a kind of infidelity. If one of the partners chooses to break a pre-set rule, then that comes down to a violation of trust. Infidelity, at its core, is about violating the trust romantic partners have for each other – whether it’s between two people in a monogamous couple or several people in a non-monogamous partnership.
Financial Infidelity: Financial infidelity might just be the only kind that doesn’t involve another person. It happens when one partner lies about how much money they have or how they’ve been spending it. It’s about the deception… the betrayal. When you commit finance infidelity, you’re being untrue about your finances with your partner. And you break the contract you had set up to be honest with each other.