YOU’RE HOLDING ONTO A GRUDGE
If you’ve been with your partner for a while and are holding onto anger, it’s going to be difficult to feel all lusty for them. Resentment prevents you from feeling free to escape during sex, which is key to wanting and enjoying it.
YOU’RE NOT FEELING GREAT ABOUT YOUR BODY
You may be avoiding sex because of something your partner inadvertently said about your body, or because youre dealing with body hang-ups that are preventing you from getting in the mood.
YOU JUMP FROM ONE RELATIONSHIP TO THE NEXT
Interestingly, having more sexual partners doesn’t make you a better lover. When you’re a serial dater, youre continually searching for that perfect partner to knock your socks off. If getting in and out of relationships seems easy, you may also be dealing with an underlying fear of intimacy.
YOUR PARTNER IS LOOKING AT OTHER WOMEN
Yeah, it makes you angry. But really, it hurts, and makes you want to do anything but jump in bed. You should definitely tell your partner you dont like when they do things like check out other women or Google women right in front of you.
HE’S NOT GREAT IN BED
Many women in their mid-thirties say that their partner is a great husband and dad, but they’re not great in bed. You may want a family right now, so dad skills win out over bedroom skills. Speak up about what you want in the bedroom, to help get his abilities on point.