1. They’re likable – at least, at first glance. Narcissists tend to be great at first impressions, coming across as very charismatic and personable.
2. Not all narcissists are loud and proud. In fact, some are quiet and shy. There’s two kinds of expressions of narcissism: grandiose, which is where the bragging and showing off is exhibited, and shy, where a person may be sitting in the corner, fantasizing about when their day will come, and resenting others.
3. They always manage to make the conversation about themselves. You could start talking to a person about how you have cancer, and pretty soon you’re talking about their new car.
4. They like nice things. One of the hallmark traits of narcissism is the desire to display high status, and this is often done with material items.
5. They are strongly averse to criticism. While no one can honestly say they like receiving criticism, people with narcissism are hypersensitive to it.
6. Excuses are a narcissist’s best friend. Narcissists tend to externalize blame, pinning the blame on everyone but themselves.
7. They leave a trail of wreckage behind them. Does this person have a history of bad relationships and work experiences? Consider that a red flag.
8. Narcissists are not low in self-esteem. A common belief is that people who are high in narcissism are secretly low in self-esteem – but this just isn’t true.