Online Dating Mistakes Smooth Guys Know to Avoid

Writing a Message That Simply Says “Hi”

It doesn’t leave much room for conversation, plus it’s too generic.

 A Bare-Bones Profile

Cool that you’re 6’4”

but when that’s all you’ve told us about you it makes it hard to start a conversation.

 Dropping Lines Like “Hey Gorgeous” or “Hey Beautiful”

This just feels ick, even if you mean well.

 Using Old Photos or Relying on Group Shots

Ditch that picture of you playing lacrosse in high school or the shot of you and your 20 closest friends in favor of a recent solo snap.

 Listing All the Traits You DON’T Want in a Partner

You don’t want drama. You don’t want someone who’s clingy. It’s okay to make your list of “must haves” known, but coming at it from a negative standpoint makes you seem aggressive.

 Answering without Furthering the Conversation

If we write to you and your reply doesn’t include a question, it’s a hint that you’re not interested. If you want to keep chatting, make it a point to ask a follow-up question.

 Getting Impatient When a Woman Doesn’t Reply Immediately

Guys who send an initial message, then immediately reply with “??” and then “why didn’t you respond?” freak us out.

 Throwing Up Red Flags Left and Right

If your profile is all about how you just got out of a long relationship/your family forced you to join/you haven’t had any luck on this site but you’re trying again, don’t be surprised when you don’t get many interested matches.