1. They Don’t Ask About Your Partner
If “they’re not outright mean, but there’s just a lack of positivity or genuine interest,” that’s a red flag, says Anita Chlipala, founder of Chicago-based relationship therapy firm. It’s not a great sign if they’re not curious about one of the most important people in your life. And anyway, as Chlipala points out, “If you meet someone for the first time, there’s really no reason why you shouldn’t be curious about them” – that is, unless you automatically dislike them.
2. They Compare Your Partner to Your Exes
This behavior is super annoying. If your ex was so great, they would still be around. Obviously, they’re not. If your family isn’t digging your new relationship, Chlipala says, “They might bring up your ex frequently, make comparisons, and even say, ‘Well, so-and-so wasn’t like this.'”
3. They Don’t Include Your Partner
It’s not unreasonable for your family to want a little one-on-one time with you, especially if you’re visiting from out of town or don’t get to see each other often. The new person in your life doesn’t need to be attached to your hip at all times. But if you’re ready to introduce your significant other to your family, and your parents or siblings aren’t exactly rolling out the welcome mat, that points to trouble. And the snub can be sneaky, Chlipala points out – like if your family decides brunch just so happens to be girls-only, so your boyfriend can’t come.
If you’re not sure how your family is handling your new relationship, it’s worth having an honest conversation. If there are issues at play, it’s better to sort them out now instead of letting them fester over time. http://elitedai.ly/2BsRrWl