These Are the Emotional Benchmarks You Should Hit Before Getting Engaged

HAVE A BIG FIGHT

When arguments do occur, you and your partner might have different fighting styles-he might want to disengage until you can both calm down, while you may prefer to duke it out right that effing moment to feel heard. Before your merge, know you have a way of handling conflict that works for both of you.

 

TAKE ON A LIFE CHALLENGE

A marriage will be chock full of challenges. One element of successful relationships is knowing that your partner has your back and is there for you. To be confident that you and your partner know how to be supportive when a storm hits, make sure you can point to at least one challenge (big or small) the two of you have weathered together.

 

MEET THE FAMILY

This is about more than just having dinner with the parents-it’s important to get real about what your partner’s family dynamics look like and how you’ll fit into them. Talk about how you’ll coordinate quality time with all the in-laws.

 

SAY THOSE THREE LITTLE WORDS: “LET’S BUDGET TOGETHER”

Fights about money are one of the biggest threats to a relationship. Know your own relationship with money-why you love it, hate it, are scared of it, or hoard it. How you view money will determine what you do with it, which will probably be different than your partner. http://bit.ly/2w8XFLM