The 3 Most Damaging Myths about the Sex Lives of Men

The 3 Most Damaging Myths about the Sex Lives of Men


1. Men Want Sex All the Time

By far the most pervasive of the damaging myths, men have been painted with the overarching brushstrokes of being horny and sexually ready 24/7. In buying into this belief we keep people from recognizing individual sex drives and moment to moment awareness of their own bodies. We’re letting culture make the decisions for us. You make your decisions and you know what you need in order to feel happy. Whether that’s sex all the time, some of the time, rarely, or never- the decision has always been yours.

 2. Sex and Emotions Are Separate for Men

Many people believe that for guys, sex is just sex. I have been asked by a few of my closer female friends (who know that I work with men on their emotional and sexual issues) “Does sex really mean anything to a guy?”  The belief that men are less emotional and thus feel less attached during sex is so far off base that it’s tough to know where to begin. Men might be less emotional in some ways or show their feelings differently, but for men (and all people) sex is most certainly an act best accompanied by a healthy emotional connection to your partner.

 3. Sexual Addiction Isn’t a Real Thing

Many people believe that sexual addiction isn’t real, and if it were real, then every male on the planet would be afflicted with it (see point #1). While being a relatively young illness, it has been heavily scrutinized by society at large. And while media pundits laughed it off, sexual addiction is a true disorder that affects the lives of many men (and women) worldwide. Sexual addiction (like all addictions) tends to be a coping mechanism for someone that has a deep emotional wound they have yet to resolve.