Science Says One Magical Phrase Can End Almost Any Argument With Your Partner

Everybody just wants to feel understood, which why the results of a new study aren’t so shocking. Published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, research reveals to win almost any argument with your partner just say, “I see where you’re coming from.” The scientists asked real couples to discuss hot-button issues in a lab setting. The results show that regardless of what they were bickering about, or even who won, those who felt their partner understood their point of view actually felt happier with their relationship overall. Rebecca Hendrix, a couples therapist explains, “‘I see where you are coming from,’ is the best phrase to use to resolve an argument because it does two things: it demonstrates you are listening to the other person and it validates their perspective. Most of the time it is holding on too tight to our perspective of things that keeps us in tension with another. If we are open to another’s perspective then it becomes a discussion, not an argument.” (Women’s Health)