Snowplow Parents

“Snowplow parents” are the new helicopter parents, with the New York Times describing them this way: “Some affluent mothers and fathers now are more like snowplows: machines chugging ahead, clearing any obstacles in their child’s path to success, so they don’t have to encounter failure, frustration or lost opportunities.”

The Times reports that these parents are so intent on smoothing the way for their offspring that they continue even when their children are adults, doing things like calling their grown children’s employers if there’s a problem, texting their kids at college every day to wake them up, and booking their adult children’s doctor appointments or haircuts. And while wealthy parents have more time and money to focus on their children this way, parents of lesser means are snowplow parents too.

Experts say that while these parents think they’re helping their children, they’re actually making it harder for them to be able to do things for themselves. Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of the book, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success, told the Times: “The point is to prepare the kid for the road, instead of preparing the road for the kid.” (Business Insider)